I don’t like to eat first thing in the morning, especially if I ate late or a big meal the night before. This is a bit of a dilemma for me, because I know breakfast eating is a successful tactic for most weight losers. I also know that after a 25 minute bike ride up the hill, and a 10 minute walk after my shuttle ride, my metabolism will have kicked into gear, and I am often hungry by 9 am. But again, sometimes I’m not. If I try to force myself to eat, it tastes really bad, and I feel silly, as someone trying to diet, to force myself to eat when I’m not hungry. If I’m going on a 5 hour hike, forcing the eating is a good idea, but what if I’m just going to sit on my butt? Maybe a banana will hold me until lunch, or these 140 calorie healthy bars that we keep at work. Or not. My appetite is not predictable.
I struggle with these issues, because I’m trying to eat with my hunger, but it’s not always convenient. A few years ago, a boyfriend told me that it’s okay to be hungry occasionally, and good for weight losers, because you can just eat a “fat snack” (he said, squeezing his tummy). Obviously, in his mind, his way was right, since he had never had a weight problem, he knew what he was talking about. I got very pissed at him, I really hate when guys who have never had a weight problem think it’s because they’re doing everything right and thus know all the answers, rather than just being lucky, but later thinking about it, maybe it is okay to get hungry occasionally, and eat sporadically.
So now, instead of rigidly planning meals and times to eat, if it’s convenient, I wait until I’m hungry, and see what I’m hungry for. Sometimes, if the scale isn’t budging, I push it a bit. If I only have 20 minutes to make and eat dinner if I want to get to the gym, dinner may be some cottage cheese with a side of steamed collards. A burrito would be yummier and easier, but won’t lead to weight loss. When life is hectic, sometimes meals get pared down. This is especially true when I’ve been eating work food, or heavy food-if I can’t eat healthy meals, I’ll eat smaller ones, or less of them. I have to do what I can in this life, and I’m not independently wealthy enough to have the leisure to have 100% control over my diet. I do the best I can do, and if that means that meals become snacks, or occasionally get skipped, so be it.
This seems to be more in line of what “normal” people, not dieting, without weight issues, do. I don’t think they fret about the macronutrient balance of everything they eat, or set a fixed schedule (or not single ones with erratic schedules, anyway-once you have to feed your family, things change), or eat a certain amount, hungry or not. This, to me, seems like true intuitive eating-the freedom to not bother if I don’t feel like it