He asked as he pulled me onto the bench next to him. “You know, from one fatty to another”. This, from one of my landlord’s friends, who I bump into once every year or two, and have known about 15 years. I wasn’t that surprised, as he had been looking at me with an inquisitive look all evening, but had to chuckle at the his direct, no beating around the bush approach.
“I exercise a lot and don’t overeat” (as I sat there overeating-blame the alcohol) . I went to that party fully expecting to overeat, did the gym in the morning, with plans for a good hike on Monday, mild exercise on Sunday. Hangovers make me tired and lazy and not in the mood to bounce around at the gym to loud music. Go figure.
“Yeah, I exercise, but I eat way too much”
“Well, you can’t do that, unless you’re Michael Phelps or someone who burns so much that he can eat whatever he wants”
“I just don’t have the discipline”.
“Yeah, you’ve got to really want it. If it doesn’t bother you, then don’t worry about it”
“Yeah, that’s what I figure, it doesn’t really matter that much”
Personally, I think if a person exercises a decent amount, they’re ahead of the game anyway. Who would I be to judge, as a cigarette and pot smoker? (Disclaimer-with the exception of last night, I have mostly given that the weed-a whole ‘nother story, not relevant to this blog). What I should do is quit drinking instead, as that always causes me to eat way too much crap-last night it was potato chips and brownie bites. Two foods I NEVER keep in the house. But I knew going in that I would eat too much, and I’m okay with it.
But honestly, I watch how people eat, especially women who don’t seem to have food/weight issues. This is how I learned to eat “normally”, by watching normal people eat. And they get drunk, or eat funny mushrooms, or whatever, and stuff themselves, too. (And people are amused, if they notice at all, unless the person is overweight, in which case they judge). I imagine they don’t do it on a regular basis, but parties are just an inspiration to eat a lot. I see no need to beat up on myself about it, instead I will eat less today. This doesn’t mean I’m going to starve myself, it just means that I’m going to wait until I get hungry till I eat again. That’ll probably be mid-afternoon, judging by how not-hungry I am right now. So, it balances. I think this seems normal and appropriate, I’m not going to force myself to eat, not going to force myself to not eat, not going to force myself to eat only salad, I’m just going to wait to see if/when I get hungry, and eat what my body wants. Realistically, it probably will be veggies, I really don’t like heavy food when I’m hungover.
Happy Memorial Day all, hope it’s a warmer where you live. It is a chilly grey weekend here.